The Rose: I haven’t really dated anyone like you before.OK, I will wait for those of you that know me to get up off the floor and stop laughing. I don’t think anyone has ever accused me of being too nice. No one has ever even accused me of being nice. Especially not the nephew that refers to me as Mean Uncle Bill or the Seabee who threatened to kick my ass if he ever saw me again. How about the guy at the Christmas party this year who took offense to the way I was playing pool. The Christmas season seems to affect us all differently.
Blue944: Like me?
Blue944: you mean human?
Blue944: good looking?
Blue944: funny?
The Rose: I feel like I have more of an edge than you do
The Rose: Like you may be too nice for me....
I guess if you polled all of my friends, most of them would say that I was a nice guy, that you can count on me to be there to help, but that I can pick on someone incessantly. Maybe I just haven’t picked on The Rose enough for her to see my not so nice side. I guess we aren’t in that place as described by Becky about her relationship.
“One thing I really like about our status is that we're over that initial dating hump in terms of figuring out what you like/don't like, being on your somewhat best behavior (like trying to not burp), having friends that don't quite realize that you're a real couple to think about inviting you both out. Now, I feel like we're truly ourselves, for the good and the bad, and it's quite...comfortable (in a good way).”I don’t necessarily feel as though I have been on my best behavior, but maybe…I will say that I definitely don’t think that we are “truly ourselves” as Becky put it. But then again Becky just passed the one year dating mark and we are on about the sixth week. I am sure that our comfort level will increase as we spend more time together.
At the end of the day, I am not sure that successful relationships come down to being nice or not. All of us are nice and all of us have the capacity to be mean or even mean spirited. I think relationships are still about accepting people for who they are, enjoying the positive attributes and handling their negative ones.
Come to think of it, maybe she has just never dated someone who is so deep, thoughtful, introspective, and you know, humble.
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Perhaps the fact that you are able to be honest, and not try to be something that you are not..including both the good and bad habits you have (we all have) is why she finds you so different and refreshing.
still laughing... :)
-TG
At six weeks, Ted and I definitely hadn't seen much of our darker sides either and I would say we were still on our best behavior for the most part. It was almost frustrating waiting for the honeymoon period to be over to have our first fight and how we would (or if) get through it. I think you're right in that we all have the capacity to be nice and mean (well, at least those of us that are normal) and it's a matter of how we handle ourselves when we're on the bad side. If Ted and I call each other out on something, we apologize for it or at least try to talk it out.
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