It's #303...Come On Up

OK, this week really needs to end. Not because it’s the long week after a very short week. Not because it’s the end of the month and I’m pretty much done for November (best month ever). Not because I’m tired from the four days of debauchery over the holiday weekend. It needs to end because the first party in my new place is this Friday night. I’m having a Mojito Happy Hour party this Friday. We will be making and drinking mojitos after work and hopefully well into the night. Who knows, maybe we will end up in Jack London for late night partying. Followed by some chicken and waffles. I’m already smiling just thinking about it. If you’re around, come by and have a mojito with me and a few of my friends, colleagues and any other stranger that can ring the buzzer to my place.

If you read the last comment on my last post, then you know I have had a house guest for the last few days. My place really isn’t designed for house guests, at least not long term guests, but he is a friend in need and I couldn’t turn him down. He is having some marital problems and I didn’t want him sleeping in his car or under his desk.

Now I have to say, I don’t approve of what he did that caused his immediate marital problems, but I’m not on this Earth to judge, just learn and teach. He had an affair. Now calm down ladies…as a man who was once the cheatee and not the cheater, I can understand the immediate anger response when hearing of this type of betrayal. But as someone who has lived through this hell and come out the other side, I can honestly attest that infidelity is but a symptom of much bigger problems in any relationship. People who are in love…or in great relationships, don’t go out and have an affair. There are always other things wrong with the relationships that cause the infidelity. Most of the time it comes down to a lack of communication. Find yourself someone you can talk to. Someone you can tell everything to. Someone who listens and hears you and you will make it last forever. Oh and it helps if she’s an animal in the bedroom. Oh, that’s just for me.

I have a theory. I think that most people are too chicken shit to end their relationship when they know they should. So they hang on and keep trying and sometimes years pass and both parties are unhappy or miserable. Because both people are too afraid to end it, one person finally does something so drastic as to ensure the end of the relationship…thus affairs. If we were smarter, we would fold the hand when we knew it was doomed. Instead we try and make the best of it, or wait for the other person to come around…people rarely change. You shouldn’t expect them to. Either love them for who they are or get out and find someone you can love. It sounds mean, but it is better than spending 10 years being unhappy. And you will actually be doing the other person a huge favor.

Anyway…Tuesday is almost over and that means I'm less than three days away from The Great Mojito Bash of 2005. There is so much left to do.