Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Timing

They say timing in life is everything. I am not sure who "they" are, but I have always considered myself as someone who has good timing. I could always hit a baseball, which most people consider to be one of the hardest things in sports to do. And anyone who has played golf with me the last ten years can attest that my swing has perfect timing. I got out of the military 30 days before Dessert Storm began. My last few jobs have come just at the perfect time, either just as one job ended or as I wanted to leave. I happened to look at a condo the exact day that a unit just like I wanted came back on the market. I always seem to be at the right place at the right time.

I have noticed lately that there is one aspect of my life where my timing has been and still is absolutely horrible. You guessed it, my love life. Things that happen in my life seem to work directly against my love life. Here are a few of my latest examples.

I had a chance a few months ago to be set up on a blind date in NYC. At the last minute she had to change her plans. Of course I still went to the city because I love NY. I recently got to spend some time with that person and found her to be fascinating. We have a lot in common and I could see she and I exploring a relationship. Guess what, a few weeks after we would have met, she met someone else and is now dating him.

I met another girl a year ago, but we lived in different states and dating didn't seem practical. About a month after I agreed to move to DC for a new job, her company transferred her to about 20 miles from my old place in CA. We are still close friends, but now we live even farther apart than before. Guess what, she is now dating someone so even if I was willing to try a long distance thing, the timing isn't right.

This poor timing is not new to my love life. Those of you that read through the three part post of the hardest 5 years of my life, know that I have always been afflicted with poor timing in love.

I am sure that this post is beginning to sound like a pitty me post, but it really isn't. I believe we have to examine our lives and try to understand what and why things happen in order to grow. Only by understanding the patterns of your life, can you hope to change those patterns.

Of course I don't know how you fix poor timing in love. It is not like there is some kind of exercise I can do to improve my love to life coordination.

I am still the eternal optimist about love, mainly out of necessity, as the odds are so stacked against me that only optimism keeps me from a prescription of happy pills.

Who knows maybe all that bad timing is leading up to one perfect moment in my life. Maybe fate has something special in mind for me. Maybe I will just bump into my soul mate on the street one day or she will sit down next to me on a plane...are you listening to me fate? Any time now would be great.

3 comments:

cosmopolgirl said...

I hate to be kind of cliche but......I'm a firm believer that if it was meant to be it would have been. Knowing you a bit, I know that you are an amazing guy who will find someone who appreciates you and you appreciate also!!

Becky said...

THis is one of those areas in life where no matter how hard you try to plan, structure, organize, it just doesn't work that way. It really seems to be more about sheer luck than anything else that might actually sound rational. I've always found that as soon as I really stopped giving a crap, is when I met someone. Strange...

Jerrster said...

I'm thinking Becky's got it..."Life happens to you when you are making other plans"--john lennon said.

stop giving a crap and you'll meet someone Becky said that.

I agree with her.